Students and Schools

Students and Schools

Every person seeking positive life change needs the love and support of family, friends, the community, and the church. Students, in particular, should have a safe environment to seek the help they want and need without fear. After all, our children need a climate of compassion and inclusion, not contempt and exclusion.

That is why PFOX asks the question to students and schools: if only one part of you has gay feelings, should your whole life be gay identified?

Many people would agree that just because one part of you feels a certain way, it doesn’t mean your entire identity is that way. Having feelings of same-sex attraction may make you feel different. We all feel the need to fit in and be accepted. No one should identify themselves based on sexual feelings alone. There is more to your identity than your sexual attractions.

Thousands of ex-gay men and women had those very same feelings in school. Some of your friends had those very same feelings. Feeling different is no fun. You may have heard, “You must be gay!” But no one should be labeled “gay” based on the perception of others. Educate yourself! Uncover the origins of your same-sex attraction. Why do I have these feelings? Where did they come from?

The decision of a prom date, a car, or whether or not to super-size those fries can be based on a feeling, but IMPORTANT decisions should not be made on feelings alone. In order to make an educated decision, you have to be informed! Sexuality develops over time. It is not necessary to label yourself today.

Before deciding to identify yourself as gay or lesbian, consider:
Explore the origins of your same-sex attraction